Wednesday, August 29, 2012

jump in my bliss~

As I played AWOLNATION's 'All I Need' on repeat, I couldn't help picturing the scene where Travis and Wes stroll into the evidence locker and are ambushed by the SIS team.

The whole scene plays out in slow-mo all while the hypnotic chorus of 'All I need, all all I need, All I need, all all I need, All I need, all all I need... Is you, smiling, at me, all all I need, All I need, all all I need, All I need, all all I life, love, with you' draws you into the scene.

And at that moment I just knew I had to share this scene with Jason. This epic scene from Common Law that I knew Jason would find exciting just as I had.

I realise that's what our relationship has been like over the past 5 years. I find a cool song and I send it to him hoping to share this little moment of bliss I've captured. Or if I find a well written article I'd email him in hope that he'll read it too and be inspired just as I had been.

More than often my emails go ignored and he never (ok maybe only sometimes) watches the videos I send and I used to get so irked wondering why he didn't want to jump in my bliss for a minute or have that same moment of awe as I had watching a video or listening to a song.

Despite that, I still look for moments in my day to share with him. Whether it's a funny conversation, a good joke or a random scene from work, I seek out the little stories of my day to share with my husband. We're generally quite quiet and it's easy to let conversations drop to a lull as we wrap up our day and just draw into our own quiet worlds where we find our own contentment in just being by ourselves.

Silence doesnt bother us but sometimes it takes a little bit more effort to have an intentional conversation that pushes beyond the "How was work today?" and "what's new with you?" mantra.

But being with Jason is both comfortingly familiar yet astoundingly new so I still feel like there's loads of conversations yet to be had and a million more stories we've yet to share. So being the girl AND the more talkative of the two of us, I yammer on about the day, about what happened and who I met, and what I saw online, and about what's new with our friends, and I drop in childhood stories and embarassing stories and silly stories and just when I feel like I'm talking to myself, he says, "You gagged when eating vegetables? HAHA!" 

So now I have to put up with him at mealtimes when he puts on a lil' skit saying, "EAT YOUR VEGETABLES!" *gag* *gag* and pretends to be 5-year-old Mel gagging at the sight of long beans.

And then I wish i never shared that silly yet traumatising long-beans story with him.

Monday, July 30, 2012

Jason + Mel 14.04.12

Jason + Mel 14.04.12 from Joshua Chiam on Vimeo.

what comes after...

It's more than three months since we got hitched and we're slowly settling down into a routine and getting our lives sorted a little bit. It's sort of a weird feeling not having to think about flowers and colour and decorations and what song to add to my playlist. I sorta miss that though - the excitement of planning a wedding. Would I do it all over again? heh... probably not. But it was fun while it lasted.

Now, the real work begins and I'm excited about the marriage part of this journey. The best words of wisdom I received before I got married was "Keep the wedding short, and the marriage long, Keep the wedding simple, cause marriage is complicated enough."

I think holding on to that reminder did help and we took this step of faith with absolute surety and a sense of peace knowing God's hand was upon us. That's a fine feeling to have - knowing that The Big Guy approves and we're making sure He's on this journey with us.

I don't really know what's next or what kinda dreams and plans we're supposed to have for the next phase but I know we'll discover that as we move along. Right now as we get to know each other a little better and we dig deeper and let our friendship grow a little more everyday, I think I find new things to love and new things that annoy the daylights outta me!

It's still like discovering fun facts and I thank God everyday for You.

Tuesday, April 24, 2012


We wanna thank all of you who were with us at the wedding, our helpers, those who prayed for us, those who celebrated with us and those who couldn't make it but sent us happy thoughts and well wishes. It was the happiest day ever and I know that Joy will continue to follow us as we journey on. 

Thank you for being a part of our lives. :)

Friday, April 13, 2012

Wherever You Are....(FOUND YOU!!!)

Getting married tomorrow.

I wrote this post 6 years ago for my future wife whom I had not met at that time.

Sort of a letter to my future soul mate. (Reading back on's super cheesy yo)

Now that I read it, seems pretty interesting.



Wherever you are...
In the watches of the night...I do wonder about you...

I wonder if I know you...
Have I met you before...
How do you look like...
Where are you now...
What are you doin as I type this...
Are you tall or are you petite...
Will I meet you when your hair is long
or will it be short...
What is the color of your hair?
Is it straight or wavy?
What is the color of your eyes?
Where is your hometown?
What is your hobby?
How does your voice sound?
Do you like shopping?
Do you like skirts and dresses?
Or do you prefer jeans and T-shirts...
Do you like the beach or the stars...
What's your favourite color?
How do you sound when you giggle, when you laugh...
Do you cry you store up things in your heart?
Will I be the object of your anger and well as your unrestraint affection?
Are you beautiful when you're angry?
Will you be a quiet person like me? or will I be drawn to your confidence..
Tell me your dreams...can I share them...
How will you find me? Will i be so in need of you?
Will you discover me in my greatness...or in my brokeness?
Will you be proud of me?

Do I know you now? Have we met?
Have we spoke before?
In what manner will I be your chosen one?
I'm tired...I wish for your company....
but alas it isn't time yet...
just as Aragon went through hell and conquered...
just as he bidded his time and accomplished his destiny...
before he held Arwen Evenstar in his mighty arms..
So will it be me and my God's calling on my life...
When I have done all that has deemed me man enough...
I promise that I will find you..
I promise that you will find a man...and not a boy...
I will try and be your king...
your heart would be the greatest thing to possess...
please give me a chance to know you...
What if you hide your face from me...will you not harken to my voice when i call...
I want to know your heart...
I want to spend time listening to your complaints...
Tell me your uttermost secrets...
Your biggest dreams...
Tell me what has God promised you...
What makes you..
What breaks you...
Who are your heroes....
Do i know you now? or are you hidden from me at this time...
Will you love me for who i am...
though haggard and unsightly....
i'm not pretty...
I'm rough and uncouth...
will you endure my temperament...
How far away are you from me now?
I'm afraid of many things because I am weak...
afraid to be vulnurable, afraid to be hurt...what is love?
My dear, I'm a jealous person...
Intense and broken inside...
How many guys that I may have to fight to win you?
A hundred...a thousand...?
How long till our destinys long?
When I run my fingers across your bare back,
When i catch the sweet fragrance of your hair...
the smell of your skin...
then I will know it was worth the wait for you...
worth the heartache...
worth heartbreaks...
save me from them...keep my heart safe...
Do i know you now....are you hidden from me till the proper time...?

Who are you?
What is your name?
Please wait for me...
Do I know you now...or are you hidden from me...

wherever you are...
I thought of you...

Friday, March 30, 2012

Happy Birthday Jason!

(Picture courtesy of Neo Wee Liem)

Today, Jason celebrates his 29th Birthday! His last birthday as a single man and the final year of his roaring twenties. I believe that the guy who started out at 20 evolved along the way and made his way to 29 aging quite gracefully (do rock stars age gracefully? hmm... maybe not Keith Richards :p)

I never knew the Jason who started his 20-year-old life, but I did get to know him mid-way and watch him become the man he is today. And I like what I see. :)

His dreams, his passion and his whole being has grown over time and I'm grateful for the friendship we have that has brought us this far. I thank God for sending me a friend like him and as many of you know, Jason's a very loyal friend and one who'd go to great lengths for you.

I love that he's passionate about God and serving Him and I hope some of that has rubbed off on me too. I know that The Big Guy is still at work in him and he is still being moulded but I believe his journey will be amazing.

So Jason, as you celebrate today and look back upon your life, do know that despite all the ups and downs and rough patches that LIFE has brought you through, there has always been a bright side, there has always been sunshine after the storm and there has always been much Love surrounding you.

As you embrace 29, I hope you still continue to dream big and have hope for better things to come. Do know that you are deeply and greatly LOVED.


Wednesday, March 28, 2012

so adorableeeeeee

Jason's got like the nicest baby pictures I've ever seen. His dad sure was a good photographer!
Ok I'm not being biased or whatever but look at that face! So adorableeeeeee~!
There's a whole lot more but maybe we'll save the rest for the reception dinner?
Well hey if you have any cool photos of yourself with Jason or Me, please do send them over to our email address: huggywuggies [at] gmail [dot] com.

Owh and before you get any ideas of where that email came from, it's just an extension of this blog:

Tee hee.

Friday, March 23, 2012

The Vow

Paige: I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not and to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home.  

I can't wait to watch this movie. It's sappy and all I know, but whatever. I'm just flowing with the season.
What? I can be a girly girl. *pfft*
 Lifted this quote off Becky's status and I thought it was real sweet. :)

Friday, March 9, 2012

smile big big

I was soooo hoping to get my grills off this week and I even skipped all the way to the ortho-dentist but he just poked around and said, "pliers!" and then proceeded to TIGHTEN the damn thing. Owh the agony!

So all I got from this visit is an aching jaw and throbbing teeth. *sulk*
I've got to put up with these grills for another month! I bet you're wondering if they'll come off before the wedding.... heheh

...honestly.... your guess is as good as mine!

But hey braces or not, I'll still 'smile big BIG'!

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

It's here!

Guess what's FINALLYYYY hereeeeeeee~!~!~!

I know they're really delayed and we've had ages to do this. But since I had to get in touch with the designer in me and enlist help from my super duper awesome MOH, I think I shouldn't fret too much that it's delayed but just be thankful that it's done!

Now these uber cute red dotted labels were a freebie I found online, created by a designer named Melissa Van Hoose. Boy aren't Melis(s)a's just soooo creative! :D

They spruce up the otherwise plain-ish envelopes, and cover my unsightly hand writing! heh.

Part of me feels rather guilty for using so much paper though. So maybe I'll need to practice my cursive lettering after all.

Check your mailboxes soon you guys!

Friday, February 24, 2012

Jason's many talents

I was looking through my notebooks and came across this page of miscellaneous characters. Quite the artist this fiancé of mine.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Sh*t Brides Say

I've been addicted to the Sh*t Girls Say videos and just discovered this one on brides!


And since I totally need some humour to get me through this wedding planning stage, I thought I'd share. Tee hee.

 PS: We've got eight weeks to go!

Thursday, February 2, 2012

5 Year Mark

Day out at Zoo Negara

Today I remember our first date. I had just decided to skip town and you coerced me to head to Malacca for a short break.

I thought it would be nice to catch a movie with you and so I booked a Jack Black movie. 'He's funny!' I thought. I couldn't go wrong there. It would be some nonsense comedy and we'd laugh and I'd drown my sorrows in some 'Nacho Libre' type movie. The perfect no-brainer show!

As we sat down, I wondered if this was a date? Nahh, we're just two friends catching a movie.

When the first scene of 'The Holiday' played on screen I said to myself, 'CRAP! Jack Black, where is the comedyyy??!!! Wrong show to pick! He's totally gonna think this is a date-type movie.'

Turns out the movie might have been just the serendipitous nudge we needed.

5 years later I'm still amazed by our journey. The many twists and turns life has brought us through. Today, I reminisce on our first date, and hope that there will be many many more to come. :)

Happy Anniversary Jason!

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Taking The Leap

Did you know... the leap year, has been the traditional time that women can propose marriage.

The long-held tradition that women can propose to their boyfriends on February 29 each Leap Year dates way back when. The actually century has been contested but we know it's some time long long ago la. heh.

It was suggested that since the leap year day corrected the discrepancy between the calendar year of 365 days and the time taken for the Earth to complete one orbit of the sun (365 days and 6 hours), it was an opportunity for women to correct a tradition that was one-sided and unjust.

In Denmark, the tradition is that women may propose on the bissextile leap day, February 24, and that refusal must be compensated with 12 pairs of gloves.

While in Finland, the tradition is that if a man refuses a woman's proposal on leap day, he should buy her the fabrics for a skirt.

Some traditions also insight that Women looking to take advantage of their opportunity to propose were expected to wear a scarlet petticoat. 

Where one would find a scarlet petticoat in this day and age baffles me. But where there's a will there's a way!

I know that leap year traditions generally don't apply to us in this part of the world. But out of curiosity... how many of you would be okay with the idea of a woman proposing instead of the man?

If you are a man, would you be okay with it? Or would you run away?

And if you are a woman, would you do it? Or would you rather wait to be proposed to?

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Wedding traditions

Count down: 95 days! 

As we count down to The Day, I'm discovering more and more funny wedding traditions and interesting origins of certain beliefs. Here's a few I've compiled -

Old, New, Borrowed, Blue

The saying, "Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue" is a popular rhyme that has been used since Victorian times. The "something old" represents the bond to the bride's family and her old life; "something new" represents the couple's new life together and their future hope for happiness, prosperity and success; "something borrowed" from a happily married woman is meant to impart similar happiness to the bride; and "something blue" represents fidelity and constancy.

Throwing Rice

Showering the couple with rice is an ancient tradition. As rice is considered a "life giving" seed it is thought that by throwing in on the couple they will be bestowed with fertility and have many children. Despite the longevity of this tradition, it is on the verge of extinction because many register offices and churches no longer allow it because of the mess.

Ceremonial Kiss

The ceremonial kiss that concludes the wedding ceremony is said to represent the couple sharing and joining their souls. In Roman times the kiss "sealed" the couple's agreement to join in a life-long commitment.

Placing the wedding ring on the third finger of the left hand

Placing the wedding ring on the third finger of the left hand has two possible origins; ancient Egypt or 17th century Europe. The Egyptians believed the "vein of love" ran directly from the ring finger to the heart, therefore the ring was placed there to denote eternal love. During a 17th century wedding ceremony the groom would slide the wedding ring part way up the bride's thumb, index finger and middle finger as the priest said "In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit". As the ring finger was the first free finger, the ring was placed there.

Bridesmaids, Best Man

The bridal party has many origins, one of which comes from the Anglo Saxon days. When the groom was about to capture his bride, he needed the help of his friends, the "bridesmen" or "brideknights."
They would make sure the bride got to the church and to the groom's house afterwards. The bride also had women to help her, the "bridesmaids" or "brideswomen."

Why the Bride stands on the left

During the marriage ceremony, the bride stands on the left and the groom on the right.

The first marriages were by capture, i.e., the groom would kidnap the woman, and take her away from her tribe with the help of a warrior friend, his best man, who would help him fight off other men who wanted this woman, and also help him prevent her family from finding them.

The groom would put himself and his bride into hiding, the honeymoon, and by the time the bride's family found them, the bride would already be pregnant.

When the groom fought off other warriors who also wanted his bride, he would hold onto her with his left hand, while fighting them off with his sword in his right hand.

Honking Horns

Another ancient practice in some parts of Ireland is that of firing rifles and other weaponry into the air as the couple pass to salute the bride; of course over the past centuries this has occasionally been observed with devastating results. Honking the horns of the cars in the procession from the church replaces the firing of guns.