Thursday, October 31, 2013

Boys II Men


My best friend got married a couple of months before I did and when her wedding weekend arrived, amidst the bustle and excitement, she caught hold of me and said, "OMG Mel, I'm gonna be living with a boy!"

We laughed at the momentary panic at the sudden realisation and I told her it was gonna be GREAT! And that she'd finally have someone to take the trash out at night. (We've forgotten this little task quite a number of times when we were living together. Oh the horror!)

I admit, the same thought crossed my mind as my wedding day arrived and all the stories about living with another person sharing the same personal space raced through my mind. Would he leave the toilet seat up? Would he squeeze the toothpaste from the middle instead of the end? Would he hog the blanket? Or *gasp* would his book collection outnumber mine and take over my book shelf??? 

I count myself a pretty self-reliant person, having left home at 18 and living alone for many years after that. I didn't quite know how to let go and let someone else in for a bit. I was unsure of how to allow MY space to become OUR space.

Girls have an ego too you know and it sometimes gets in the way of letting a boy show you he's the man of the house. Marriage isn't a competition to see who's the better fixer or who's got it more together. It isn't about who gets things right and who makes blunders over the simplest of tasks. 

As much as my ego tells me that I'm always right and I can do things all on my own, it takes a much greater strength to sit still and ask my husband to see to things because I know he can do it just as well or even better than I can. 

Sometimes it's good to just sit back and let boys be men because they need to be fixers and doers too. 

Jason's the man who will put air in my tyres although I'm capable of doing it myself. He's the man who scrubs the bathroom floor cause he sees that my wrist still hurts and macho Mel will insists on doing it herself anyway. He's also the man who will delicately piece back a broken porcelain plate even though I think it's shattered beyond repair and we should call it as loss. I've come to realise that Jason's a great fixer. Give him anything that's scratched or broken and he'll try his best to fix it with duct tape, a black sharpie or glue.

The one thing Jason doesn't try to do is fix me. He knows I come with various cracks & dents and a broken part or two. But what he does instead is hold my hand as my maker does the fixing and mending and molding. I think that's a quiet strength that few have, and I find that most remarkable of all. 

Thursday, September 12, 2013

To the motherland!

Every year, I try and plan a trip where we just disconnect and disappear for a couple of days. Or weeks if we're fortunate. I think it's important to get out of the normal day-to-day grind and just take time to reconnect with yourself or your loved ones. Time is pretty precious and we don't often get to do the things we want and life just races past us without ever heeding our cry to just pause a second.

This year, we decided to head to England where Jason was born. He hasn't been back since he was eight years' old and I've always wanted to go after listening to my moms stories of her holiday there. We decided to go for two weeks and boy was it a glorious two weeks!

Here we are at Trafalgar Square

Visiting Baby George at Buckingham Palace

Inside the Natural History Museum

At Old Trafford, Manchester

The Lake District, Windermere

Goofing off at the Camden markets

 
                The City at night                                   At St Paul's Cathedral

We obviously took a lot of pictures of the sights but I just wanted to post all these pictures of us together to just remind me that travelling with this dude is pretty awesome. This travel partner/best friend made our trip really memorable. 

Of course he was anal about certain things, he is Jason after all. But we got to laugh about him almost flipping out about our delayed baggage and my fear of random creatures scurrying past us the park. I can't wait for our next adventure but hey, everyday's somewhat an adventure right. :)


Sunday, April 14, 2013

The First Anniversary~!


It's been a year since we got married and as much as it feels like one year moved along real fast, it also feels like a year where we have had to continuously work on connecting with each other and building our relationship. 

If I were to describe our first year of marriage, I'd say it's been FUN. Mainly cause we're still learning about each other and we're able to laugh with and AT each other often. I'm so glad I married my best friend. :)

I wrote this a few years back and I'm glad I still feel the same way about Jason.

Coffee fix
Seeing you is like that first waft of coffee grains I smell when I take the lid off the bottle.
Knowing you is like watching the grains fall into the cup as I measure the exact portions of coffee, creamer and sugar that will make my perfect cup of java.
Being with you is like finally taking a sip and savouring the bittersweet taste and aroma; a welcome repose in the early morning (or any time of day actually).
You, like my morning coffee fix, is contentment at its best. 
Oh what bliss~ 

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Tea For Two

Someone shared this incredibly cute yet moving short film on Facebook today and it seemed to have left an impression on me. As we near our first anniversary, I've been recalling moments leading up to our wedding. I remember the excitement, the kan cheong moments, and the nerves I had to keep calm. Twas a fun week leading up to 14th April. :D


Tea for Two from The Perennial Plate on Vimeo.

From the hodgepodge of emotions I felt then, I'm relishing in the calmness which descended upon us after the wedding. These days, I wake up everyday, look over at Jason still fast asleep and think, 'Boy am I a lucky gal!'

I hope I'll still remember details of quirky or romantic moments that would make me giggle like the lady in the video, well after 34 years of marriage. :)

Monday, February 4, 2013

Penang Mari!


Every so often, we get the travel bug and decide to scoot off for a short escape over a long weekend. So far, Penang has been our favourite state cause well.... it reminds me of home. Although I don't live there anymore, it's still a familiar place. It has the laid-back holiday feel as well as a homely feel to it and of course we're spoilt for choice when it comes to food!

Since it's an Island, we got some sun, sea and sand time and we just drove round the island exploring some of its sights. 
Morning walk on the beach

Jason on the rocks. Shaken not stirred.

Being all touristy in this familiar land did allow us to get 'lost' but since it's an island, you're never truly lost. You just end up taking a lot of 'short-cuts' and scenic routes. :D

Make-shift sunnies. I left mine in KL. Bummer. 

Duckies at the Butterfly Farm

Butterflies at the Butterfly Farm. Duhh.

Two happy campers. Beach holidays are THE BEST!

Monday, January 14, 2013

9 months yo!

9 months. That's how long it takes to incubate a baby. Seeing as we've been married for that long,  I had hoped we'd have something to share with you guys... No we don't have a physical baby but we've been working on a baby of sorts... The crafting of a perfect abode.
haha. GOTCHA!

But yes we have been working on making our home a little more inviting. We've had a total of maybe 15 people drop by to say hi since we moved in and we're really pretty sucky at hosting parties or an open house and stuff. My main excuse being... what will I FEED them? This is Malaysia, people eat. ALL.THE.TIME! And the second excuse.... We don't have a TV. What will they do while they're visiting? 

Owh you idiot box. How have I survived this long without you?

Well this past weekend, I figured we needed some gang time. Jason was looking forward to seeing his boys from the hood, and I really missed girly conversations. As much as I love hanging out with my husband, Jason just doesn't gush over Ryan Gosling like the girls would.

So while the guys busied themselves with a LOUD game of Monopoly Deal, us girls arranged ourselves around the magnificent TV (courtesy of our new housemates).  All-in-all, a wonderful evening I'd say. :)

The guys play Monopoly Deal. 

The girls watch clips from Magic Mike :D

Owh! and the Handsome Men's Club!